Faithfulness, Does It Really Protect You From HIV?
Loving relationships are built on trust. It is true that love is the fundamental element, but it is that same feeling that makes us blindly trust our partner. When one falls in love, everything is so intense that it can lead us to surrender everything to that relationship: the body, the money, the passwords of our social networks, and much more.
That trust also leads us to believe that the person we are with will not be able to betray us with infidelity. But relationships advance, mature, and change, and what were once sincere promises are loosening up to levels we did not suspect. That’s why talking about fidelity as an effective strategy to prevent HIV is a swampy ground.
Let’s Talk About Marriage and Migration
Marriages in which the man has to migrate to find a better job. Searching for sustenance for the family is a noble reason to change residence, but once the man leaves his place of origin, things change a lot for him.
You are far from home, usually in large cities, where social norms are very different from where you were born. He works a lot and after work, he looks for places to relax, to have a couple of beers. You may feel freer to do things that you would otherwise be judged by in your hometown (based on some research).
One thing leads to another. Although it’s most likely that his wife warned him “not to mess with anyone” while in another city, and he promised not to. However, things happen and they do so unprotected because he was not looking for that infidelity, therefore he does not have a condom at hand as he engages in this situation.
One day he returns to his community, is reunited with his wife and after such a long time apart, they resume their sexual life. The most likely thing that will happen is that neither of the two will propose to use a condom, because that would be accepting, in some way, that there was infidelity, which is unthinkable for both.
“A Promise is Easier to Break Than a Condom”
The saying goes that it is easier for a fidelity promise to be broken than for a condom to break. If that sexual activity outside of the couple is going to happen no matter how much you may deny it, wouldn’t it be better if it happened with protection?
Talking about possible infidelity scenarios can be difficult for many people, but doing so could help prevent serious sexually transmitted infections such as HIV. Refusing to see the possibility does not mean it doesn’t exist.
In the same way, the use of a condom will not make it less painful to discover that there was a deception, but it can prevent that, in addition to emotional disappointment, the act leaves a mark on their health.
Whatever the situation may be in your relationship, the most important thing is that you know your HIV status. At AHF Latin America and the Caribbean, we offer free HIV tests. Learn about our services and locate the closest center in your country or contact us through WhatsApp. HIV testing is confidential, results are ready in minutes, and facility environments are free of stigma.