Have you noticed how close World AIDS Day and the end-of-year holidays are? Interestingly, the fact that both the celebrations and the day dedicated to HIV and its consequences fall in the same month hasn’t encouraged much discussion on the topic. But perhaps this year can be different.
The December holidays are moments spent with family, even with relatives you don’t see often. In this context of togetherness, bringing up topics like HIV might be challenging. However, discussing it with family can be a first step toward dismantling the prejudices that still surround the virus.
If you want to make a difference and put the topic of HIV on the (Christmas) table, here are some strategies to start these conversations. But let’s be clear: you’ll need to educate yourself and be open to exchanging ideas.
HIV: Start the Conversation
Talking about HIV with family starts with small steps. Take advantage of quiet moments during gatherings to introduce the topic naturally. For example, you could say: “Did you hear about the events held in the city for World AIDS Day? It was just recently.”
Of course, you’ll need to know what some of those events were about. Look for ones that might be most interesting, such as concerts, sports runs, or talks with people who have been affected by HIV in some way.
You can also share important facts, such as how someone on antiretroviral treatment can live a long and healthy life and won’t transmit the virus when their viral load is undetectable. This educational approach can help reduce fear and prejudices associated with HIV, creating space for questions and reflection.
Another option is to mention campaigns about the topic on social media, or bring up a movie, series, or news piece about HIV and ask your family what they think about it. This can help you gauge their attitudes and determine the direction the conversation should take.
Empathy Breaks Down HIV Stigma
The stigma and prejudice surrounding HIV often stem from a lack of information, and therefore, fear. If you encounter these ideas within your family, respond with patience and empathy to uninformed or prejudiced comments. For example, if someone mentions that HIV can be transmitted by using the same bathroom, calmly correct them with clear and simple facts—without being judgmental (no one likes a know-it-all).
“Actually, HIV isn’t transmitted through objects or surfaces like toilets or sinks. The virus is only transmitted through certain bodily fluids, such as blood, semen, or vaginal fluids, and only when they come into direct contact with another person’s blood or mucous membranes. Using the same bathroom poses no risk.” Showing your willingness to clarify doubts can help change perceptions more effectively.
On the other hand, keep in mind that not all families are open to discussing these topics. If you notice resistance, don’t force the conversation. Instead, aim to encourage reflection. “Learning more about HIV helps us support those who need it”: this statement can be enough to initiate a gradual change in attitudes.
When Family Is Not an Option
For some people, biological family is not a safe space to discuss topics like HIV. This is especially true in contexts where there is discrimination against people living with the virus or against the LGBTQ community (which is often associated with HIV). If this is your case, remember that support networks are not limited to blood ties. Close friendships, partners, and communities can become your chosen family, offering the emotional support you need.
In these circles, you can use the same conversational strategies, simply adapting them to the group dynamic. For example, organizing a dinner with friends can be an excellent opportunity to talk about sexuality and health in a relaxed way, fostering a collective learning environment.
Emotional support is key for those living with HIV or for those who want to be informed allies. Whether within your biological family or your chosen family, you can build support networks based on empathy, respect, and information. Listen actively, connect with others’ emotions, and show your willingness to learn together.
HIV Matters to All of Us
Talking about HIV without fear helps build a more inclusive and prejudice-free world. This holiday season, let’s take the first step toward transforming how we approach and support those living with the virus.
Remember that at AHF Latin America and the Caribbean, we provide HIV services to anyone who needs them. If you want to take a free detection test, locate our offices in your country or contact us via WhatsApp to schedule an appointment today.
